Who Are You?

My husband and I were sitting in our kitchen the other day and I was sharing with him how happy I am that I got started. Got started what? Believing in myself. For many years I was waiting to be "ready" or "perfect". I didn't want to put myself "out there" and look like a fool... until I got so sick and tired of fighting my calling. It would literally pain my body not to do what I'm called to do. But for many years I held back, until finally I decided to fall in love with myself and become my own best friend, and I started seeing myself the way God sees me. That's what I want for you. I want you to get to know who you are... embrace who you are... love who you are... share with the world who you are...! 


Even with all my flaws and mistakes I was featured in an AMAZING Magazine called Cotton Candy Girls. When you believe in yourself and share who you are with the world, the world responds to your actions. Get started NOW! There is someone waiting for you to define who you are and begin to share it with the world. 

So, who are you? 

Many of us walk through life not really knowing who we are. We wear the labels that our teachers, parents and friends have given us. Very few people take the time to get to know who they really are. Getting to know who you are is not a one-time event, it’s a lifelong journey. We are constantly changing and growing. Instead of always keeping abreast of the latest gadgets, tablets and phones, we need to more importantly keep abreast of ourselves, constantly getting to know who we are. I want you to think about the way you think about your life, yourself and the world in general. More than likely your beliefs about yourself and the world are very similar to those of your parents or whoever raised you. 

I remember when I was younger I would often hear my mother say, “it’s always something.” If something broke in the house or if she received bad news, the first thing she would say was, “it’s always something!” So when I grew up and moved out on my own, whenever something negative would happen the first thing that I would say was, “it’s always something!” What I later learned was that it is always something, but that “something” is not always a negative thing. So I changed “it’s always something” to mean that there is always something good going on. 

Much of who you are today is the sum total of those who raised you. You must understand that just because the people who raised you thought a certain way does not mean that you have to take on their same thought process. Chances are since you’re reading this blog you are the “different” one in your family. You are the one that always thinks differently, sees things differently and handles your life affairs differently. I know that because most of the people that are attracted to me and my body of work are often the ones that are much different than the other people in their family. 


I had to realize that even though my mother did an amazing job raising four children on her own, I was different and saw things differently than she did. That’s not always the most enjoyable thing to deal with because it can cause a lot of friction with the people you love and care about the most in this world. Your family. 


If you are going to tap into who you really are and live an amazing life, you are going to have to get comfortable being uncomfortable around certain people, and yes, that includes your family members. 


So, who are you? What do you really think about yourself and the world?


It’s very easy to get lost in this world with all the commercials, billboards, social media, people and television shows streaming 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. How do we get in touch with who we really are with all of that noise constantly fighting for our attention? 


The easiest way to get in touch with who you really are is to not lose yourself in the first place. I believe we lose ourselves little by little and we don’t even notice it most of the time. For instance, say you love when it rains outside. You totally enjoy watching the rain drops run down your window and you enjoy the soothing sound of the raindrops hitting the roof of your house. Now, most people call rainy days “bad” days. I never understood that because without the rain we would have less food to eat and less oxygen to breathe as the rain is what grows our crops and trees. That’s “bad”?! 


Anyway, you get on an elevator on a rainy day and someone on the elevator exclaims how “bad” it is outside and your immediate response is, “yes, it’s “bad” out there!” But remember, you love rainy days, yet you just allowed how another person felt about the very thing that you love to change who you are and how you feel in an instant. Without thought you just jumped on the bandwagon with them and agreed that it’s a “bad” day out there. Why do we do things like that? I believe a lot of times we just agree with others so we can avoid being different. It can be very tempting to try to fit in with everyone else to avoid the awkwardness of being different. The only problem with that is when you fit in with everyone else, you never stand out from the crowd and reap the benefits of being who you really are. 


Here are some benefits of being who you really are:


~ You are free from the opinions of other people


~ In your business or at your job you can demand a higher pay


~ People in positions of power will seek you out to bless you


~ You don’t have to concern yourself with the latest trends, because you are the trend setter


~ You will more than likely be the “marrying type” (no man wants a woman that looks, talks and acts like everyone else)


~ You are never bored


~ Your friendships are rich and nurturing 


~ You get sick less often


~ You have a lot less stress


~ Opportunities will seemingly drop out of the sky into your lap


Why does all this happen? Because as a culture we place a higher value on what’s rare and different. 


Have you ever seen a commercial on television for a Bugatti car? Me neither. You have to seek out what is valuable, unusual, rare and one of a kind. 


In order to get to know who you really are you have to mentally dig through all the junk that clutters your mind. Think about a filter in a dryer. If you don’t clean the filter, it will get clogged up with lint from your clothes and eventually stop working properly. A friend once told me that his mother washed his clothes all his life when he was growing up and only once he went off to college did he start washing his clothes on his own. He told me that his dryer stopped drying his clothes like it used to, so he began looking around on the dryer to detect anything that would have made it stop working. Finally, he got to the filter and opened it. He was in total disbelief when he saw how much lint was in the filter. He didn’t know he was supposed to clean it, he didn’t even know it was there. After cleaning out the filter he was amazed at how fast his clothes were drying.


The same thing happens with us. If we don’t clean out the junk in our minds, we will never get to know who we really are. The junk can be the things we learned in our childhood that now limit us as an adult. 90% of who you are today is what you were exposed to during your primary years.


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